Talking to Your Daughter About Modesty


Modesty. For some parents, it’s an ongoing battle that occurs every morning before school. For others, it’s a beast that only rears its ugly head during special event dress shopping. So how do we really instill values of modesty in our girls?

The reality is, the virtue of modesty is a difficult subject to broach with girls because they aren’t willing to throw away their freedom of personal style! While fashion trends come and go, the value of self-respect is a constant. Teach your daughter to wear what makes her feel the way God sees her—truly beautiful and valuable.

Create a list of agreed-upon guidelines together that can put any clothing item to the test. That means no store is off-limits, but there is an expectation of modesty behind every purchase! Things like length, neckline, sheerness, and fit are great places to start.


2 responses to “Talking to Your Daughter About Modesty

  1. I have a 5 year old daughter who is starting to understand fashion she wants to dress herself not in the way that I think she should
    at her young age. I think she looks beautiful in her pink or yellow dresses. Now she loves to wear jeans and shorts with tennis shoes. I miss her little cute days. But I do want her to grow up a ssf trong woman that is able to make decisions for herself. It is hard trying to find the balance. Help!

  2. I have 3 girls. We talk about not seeing underwear when wearing skirts, shorts, dresses and child is built like a runner, while #2&3 both are more rounded. My oldest prefers pants now or shorts. We discuss colors and what looks good and is comfortable, as well as the purpose of those clothes – play, church, school, special occasions.

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American Heritage Girls is the premier national character development organization for young women that embraces Christian values and encourages family involvement. AHG is dedicated to the mission of building women of integrity through service to God, family, community, and country.